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Studies show that having healthy relationships decrease stress and make you healthier. The tips below, and the assertive communication tips are helpful for any type of relationship you have.

Keep Realistic Expectations: Accept people as they are and don't try to change them.

Talk with Each Other: Take time, listen-don't plan what to say next. Ask questions- appropriate, opinions, show interest. Share information- about yourself, but not too much too soon.

Be Flexible: People change and grow, allow it to happen.

Be Dependable: If you have plans follow through and do what you say you will.                                                Fight Fair: (See Assertive Communication Tips Below) Negotiate a time to talk. Don't criticize person. Don't assume feelings or motives. Make "I" statements. Stay with current topic-not all bothers or past. Say sorry and admit mistakes. Be prepared to compromise, the goal is for both to win. Ask for help if you need it from someone else. Don’t hold grudges.

Show Emotional Warmth

Keep Life Balanced and Take Care of  Yourself:  Volunteer, try new things, exercise.

It’s a Process and Takes Time: Healthy relationships can be learned and practiced to get better.

Be Yourself: Only way to have real relationships is if you are you.


A communication style where a person stands up for their own needs and wants while also considering the needs and wants of others without being passive or aggressive.

Assertive Communication

Traits of Assertive Communication

  • Clearly state needs and wants

  • Make eye contact and confident body language

  • Listen to others without interruption

  • Appropriate speaking volume and steady tone of voice

5 Simple Assertive Communication Tips

  1. Be Factual about what was done, not judgmental about assumed reasons: Plan what you will say.

  2. Be accurate about effects of the behavior: Do not judge or exaggerate.

  3. Use "I" Messages, not you: Start with how you feel and are affected by behavior.

  4. Simple Assertive Communication formula: "When you (their behavior), I feel (your feelings)." Exp. "When you shout, I feel scared and attacked."

  5. Formula with Results of Behavior: "When you (their behavior), then (result of behavior), and I feel (how you feel)." Exp. "When you arrive late, I have less time, and I feel frustrated."                                                                                         (

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